In this episode I’m joined by Laura, who shares a positive induction story from England.
Laura also talks about her recovery following a post partum haemorrhage at the end of her induction. This is a topic that’s not often discussed but I feel it’s so important to honour this part of Laura’s story.
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Here are some additional links you may find helpful:
- Gestation Diabetes – Gestational Diabetes UK
- HG / Hyperemesis Gravidarum – https://www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
- For support processing your birth with Jade, you can find more about hypnotherapy here: https://sonamum.com/hypnotherapy
- For our Hypnobirthing for Induction Course: https://positiveinduction.com/course
Transcript [Please note this is automatically created and may contain some errors]
In this episode I’m joined by Laura who shares a positive induction story from England. Laura also talks about her recovery following a postpartum hemorrhage at the end of her induction. This is a topic that’s not often discussed, but it feels so important to honor this part of Laura’s story and the thing she shares that helped her and be really important if you experienced something similar. So guys confuse, you can and enjoy You’re listening to the positive induction podcast,
a podcast for those who have chosen to have an induction of labor or for those interested and how they can make induction a more positive experience. I’m your host, Steve Gordon, clinical hypnotherapist hypnobirthing teacher, and positive induction coach. As always. I want to remind you that positive birth means different things to different people. It’s often about how you feel can be feeling in control,
being respected, feeling informed. It doesn’t mean perfect birth really goes to plan. As you see in this episode by aim here is to bring you tips, inspiration and real life experience. So let’s get started. So today I’m joined, I, Laura is agreed to share positive induction story with us. Alex will be here. I thank you very much for having me.
It’s great. It’s so important to hear. So did you read or listen to stories when you were expecting? Yeah, I can’t remember when I actually joined the Facebook group. I can’t, I honestly, I, I was told I was going to be in juice within kind of four days, so we didn’t have much time to kind of be, we were just content and get next to it.
Ready for the baby. I can’t honestly, I’m going to enjoy it. Could have been over the weekend and before we went in, but yeah, I have heard stories and I’ve also made comments on other people women’s posts as well. Kind of my kind of always in my inbox is always open. If anyone wants to message me, you know, I’m an active member on the page.
Definitely. Yeah. I think that was so helpful. I remember searching for stories myself and there was almost nothing like 8, 9, 9 years ago a day. My goodness, there was always nothing available. I find them really helpful with my second pregnancy. It just gave me a list of ideas and different things. And it’s not about having the perfect birth where everything was the plan.
That’s perfect, but like how you feel, they say that which we’ll get into. So tell me then why did you go for the induction? We had gestational diabetes. So I always know, we always knew that we would be having some form of induction that they wouldn’t let me go full term, but you have like additional scans and you seen by the doctors a lot more often,
we’d gone into the scan was 36 weeks and a day, I think, or two days, Thursday afternoon. And he was head down kind of ready to go. And they were measuring him and it’s weighted kind of trailed off the we’re expecting. I think we’re gestational diabetes. You can, you can have to go too big or they can navigate you.
The diabetes makes them bigger. Then it can affect the placenta as well. And I listing the percentage is fine, started to slow down. So he wasn’t growing as much as they wanted. So we were kind of told half past 11, then I will comment in a Monday we’re going to win. It was because of the diabetes. They just felt that he would get more help and more nutrition outside from me than what you would inside.
So we just said, yeah, whatever, if he, he needs to be happy, healthy, that’s the main thing. Then let’s get, that’s a toss up. Isn’t it? Like I know like for you, like, it felt like you didn’t have that choice, but some people do choose to wait longer. Of course it’s always that, when is it safer for BB to be and continue to bring them in?
And that’s really like the tipping point, isn’t it. So they wanted me to wait. I was 36 weeks and six days on the Monday and they wanted to get me to 37 weeks rarely because they’re not sure then. And I hadn’t said to seven weeks in the day, they were happy that they wanted to get me to 37 weeks as what they could.
So that was part of your plan from earlier on, was it easy to accept? I, it was a bit of a shock. We knew we were coming out with a plan. We just didn’t think it would be so soon. I didn’t have chance to think about it because it was a Thursday night. It was half past 11. I wasn’t due to finish work until the following week.
My husband’s training in the police. So, and he was still due to carry on train in the following week. We were planning on training up until he was, I was due to get better at what I was going to get. First. We just didn’t have a choice we had physically, or from that we needed, they estimate it his weight at five pound five.
I didn’t have anything that would fit a five pound five. Luckily my cousin, she had a very premature baby, so she dropped loads of stuff apart. My mom’s on the Saturday. We picked everything out that we’d need. I did wash dry and within 24 hours ready to go on the Monday. So it was quite clear from the very beginning that it was,
my choice is my labor. I, if I didn’t want to go ahead with the induction, then I didn’t have to go ahead. What that, you know, he’s a little bit small than what we’d want at this stage. And obviously him and his house was just a priority and I knew we’d be healthy enough. It, you know, we were majorly early that you would have any help.
He was perfectly fine. Do you feel supported in making that decision? Did you get lots of, did they give you lots of information and yeah, they kind of explained how the, how the induction had happened. They gave me leaflets and obviously I walked away with my head just full of full. I just thought I just spent a lot of time,
you know, research on the internet over the weekend and it wasn’t, they were kind of like, this is what’s going to happen, this, this and this. And it was when I spoke to my midwife on the Friday, she was like, Laura, it’s your decision. Yeah. It’s yours. All they can do is just give you advice at the end of the day or decision.
And I just, all they said to me was, you know, he’s weights trailing off the knees, you know, eat the best on the outside. And that’s all that mattered to us. Yeah. Cute. So you felt quite positive about it at that point? Yeah. I, I didn’t have any of that. I didn’t know anybody else I’ve been induced rarely have anything else to go off apart from,
I know where people women’s deaf and they’d be induced. So there’s no point going in with a closed mind. And that’s what my midwife said to me said, you need to be open-minded about what could happen. You know, it can go from one end of the scale to the other end quite quickly. You’ve just got reminded. So that’s, that’d be my advice.
And it has been my advice when you’re the woman that has to be induced, just be open-minded to the possibility is don’t go in there and say, I mean, I had a birth and they don’t call it a birth implant anymore. They call it birth and preferences princes. But that didn’t mean it doesn’t kind of mean anything because anything could happen at that point pain relief.
And I didn’t have any pain relief, but I don’t know how, because I’ve never had a baby before. I don’t know crash. I don’t know if I would get to a point and be like, no, you gave me that gave me the stronger painkillers. You know, it’s not enough. It was just to be open minded. And that’s the kind of how I went in.
I, you know, I’ve tried to educate myself as much as I can offer. It’s my decision. And just to be reminded to get the baby out safely and making sure that we’re both okay. Yeah, that was in eight. So you had Friday, Saturday, Sunday, like a viz home. Some people have like an ever or like half an hour and then people have firmware.
What did you do in that team? Was it kind of seems like knowing that on Monday, this is going to happen. I got to go to find work on the Friday. I was off from work on Friday. I got to find work on the Friday and just say, yeah, I’m not coming back then, but I’ll go. I went in on the fire day for a couple of hours to do a bit of work,
put the capacity in the car kind of thing. We, I mean, we started packing the hospital about 10 to of book properly packed. The hospital bags just got after semantic that people had like basically repaired. And it didn’t give me the time to process anything emotionally or in the brain, which is not always a bad thing because I think I’ve had to had,
you know, two weeks of thinking about it, I would have done too much research. I would avail myself for too much information and it would have gone in there a completely different person. I was quite relaxed going in there. So then Monday went in. Yeah, we went in on the Monday, we sold for half past two, we went to Toronto and we’d got,
took into an assessment review, the local hospital I had the 24 hour pastory yeah. Begin with. So she checked me and I wasn’t anywhere, very easy to, to, to start. So she, they put the passenger in that examination was pretty painful and uncomfortable. I think, because I wasn’t dilated at all. There was no happening down there.
So the past week was potting in the afternoon. I think if a half past three, they put it in and we were taken up to the maternity ward later on that night there nights that we could do, they monitored me every couple of hours, just cause baby, he was absolutely fine, no problems in life. In the next day on the Tuesday,
when we were upon the ward, we were quite lucky that we were always in a side room when we were in the hospital. So my husband could stay with me the whole entire time. We went for a bit of a walk on the Tuesday. I think it was possibly the Tuesday afternoon when they had the monitors on. She started out, was having some,
some contractions, but nothing from my end, I felt something at one point. But then, because I don’t know, but I don’t know why. I didn’t really know what it was. She said it was a contraction, but you could just see on online on the monitor where I was going up and down, they took the past severe. I was the light sort of has to be out late on the Tuesday afternoon.
And they came and checked me just after T I think it was. And I dilated one to two centimeters. So I didn’t need any of that because the next option, I didn’t need that one. It was just a case of waiting for a major. I have to come available on the labor ward. She said it could be tonight. It could be tomorrow morning.
We don’t know. So were you surprised that you were to say, which is already when you hadn’t really felt she could have cried? I could have hooked her because it’s such, it’s such a waiting game. We went for a bit of a walk on the hospital, but you just you’re on edge, just waiting for something to happen. So you never want to stray too far,
but yeah, when she told me I was wants two centimeters, I was like, I’m such an impatient person. I didn’t want 24 hours for it. Not to do anything. That’s more painful. And you just sat there waiting around. So yeah. Well she responded to send to me, you don’t need anything else. She can edit. You have people come when we can take it down.
So that night for the first time in, since the whole time I’ve been pregnant, I had the best night’s sleep I have ever had this case. It was like my body just like I didn’t sleep very well the night before I think because I had the pessary and you kind of just, you know, it’s that it’s uncomfortable, the really hot anyway.
But that night on that she used tonight, I have never slept so got to my whole life. So then nothing happened overnight. And then the next morning we were getting ready to go and have a shower. We got all the global stuff together and we walked to the shower, somebody, or there’s a new lady in there. So we went back and sat on the badge.
That’d be five minutes. And a midwife came in with a student midwife. And I just thought it was a normal midwife during the morning rounds, come to check our bars. And she said, I’ll never have constituted a dancer labor room. I was like, okay. Okay. All right. Then my mom was on the way to the hospital to drop some clothes off and pick some bits off and for us,
and she was born of a birth and Carness as well as the husband and my momma said, mommy, mouse will just pop the and come in because, but we’re going down. And they brought a trolley. It was because we had so much and we didn’t know how long we’d be in there for literally patch for a holiday, a five day holiday.
So it took us down to the league was, and I, again, I was in control of everything. I said, what I wanted to happen when I wanted to happen. And we had to pull in the, in the labor. So I wanted to buy. So I sat there and I had to pass toast and I had to call tea.
And then I was like, okay, now I’m ready if we can begin. And the midwife was raised to value, understanding of that. They were so supportive of kind of what we wanted to the group of water’s just after 10. I think it was in the morning again, I was still around one to two centimeters. They did have to drain my bladder to get to,
it was kind of a catheter strained gene that has been most probably waters. And I said, I wanted to wait. It was actually my friend that said that she had heard well-spoken and you can’t wait to see if that happens to you before they put me on the draft. So I said, I wanted to wait to see if anything happened. Naturally I wanted the least medical intervention possible.
I don’t take painkillers the last half to take them. I’m just I’d want to do it kind of medically free as possible. So she said again, that’s absolutely fine. We’ll give it two hours. And they got to about 11 and nothing had happened whatsoever. I was walking, I was on the ball, you know, I wasn’t just sat down waiting for something to happen.
So it got spotlight. I was just like, if nothing happened now, it’s not going to happen in the next hour. So let’s get this show on the road and they put me on there. I’m not sure which I’m not sure which trip it was, but they put me on the drip. Yeah. Oxytocin. It was something. Yeah, it kind of went from zero to a hundred,
quite greatly with that Dre. I was sick a couple of times. I think that the once the contractions really started, I had to read about one and I, I was sick. I was in the toilet as well. I think it was my, no, it wasn’t the toilet. I’ve not had any pain relief at that point. And I think I was probably around three to four centimeters and I was contracting quite a lot.
So they decided to drip down, I couldn’t get off the toilet at all. And then she said, let’s discuss pain relief. When we get back to the room, I was like, okay. When we just started on Gassner, didn’t want anything because I didn’t want to feel funny. I didn’t want anything that would make me feel sick or make me be sick again.
So she said the best thing, obviously that’s actually probably is the fastener. And she told me, and it stopped in the whole entire time is the gas now takes seven seconds to hit the pain. So every time I saw her to suck on the tip, I was counting to seven seconds in my head and that’s been peak. And then it would come back down again.
He also know if I didn’t like it. It was not my system pretty much straight away. And if that didn’t work or didn’t help, then you know, it was up my system and any after-effects. We started on that and I, they weren’t, they don’t really track you that often to see how far, far dilated you are. I wanted to be checked quite often.
Again, I didn’t want to be just sat around and nothing was happening, but, you know, so I can’t remember what time it was, but she suggested that I went on all fours, still on the gas sinner and the contractions are quite common. We were coming in thick and fast. And I was thinking I was on all fours, maybe about 40 minutes to an hour.
And I dilated six, nine centimeters from being an office that was getting to the point where I was once I’m going after a role. But mom was like, you’re not having one. You don’t need to have an actual role. And I was like, let’s just see how far we are. Cause if I’m only four centimeters or five, and this is too much and I can’t carry on.
So I came back onto my bus, the midwife chat me and she said, no, you’re not in centimeters, Laura, you’re going nowhere. And we gave her another 20 minutes and she chatted me again and I was 10 centimeters. She’s like, let’s go. Okay. And by this point it was only about 20 to six and only went on the drip at 11.
So I leave it quite quickly. I crowned him couple of times line number buck by such bad back pain from the contract. The midwife suggested getting on all fours again. And within 20 minutes he was out being on all four. So I’m a great believer and gravitating. I clicked, you know, I remember all seeing on the TV programs when, you know,
when the head comes out and then they tell you to stop pushing and just breathe for a second. He just came out and he just wants it to come up. So yeah, he came up perfectly fine. Do the old again. That, that whole, I think I was really lucky. My body responded to the past read fairly well and obviously responded to really well on the lucky ones.
And then so, yeah. Okay. First. And then they told me it from company back to answer, I could hold him and then they gave me the injection to get the placenta out. Yes. So they should go get into the center. They couldn’t get out the med drive, couldn’t get out the doctors couldn’t get it out. I did end up in emergency fester having it manually removed.
I lost no two liters of blood and I was put to sleep while they took the percentile and it should be back off and whatever they did down there, I was gone for quite a long time. But up until that point, the whole induction was absolutely perfect. You know, I was, I was well-informed, I was well-educated, they’d listened to me of what I wanted and what I didn’t want to happen.
It’s just after that point, that’s kind of when it went downhill a little bit, but I don’t like it’s part of what, it’s not the whole story. The whole induction, I wouldn’t change any of it at all. It was it’s quite, it was quite a controlled and I liked being in control and it was probably the most controlled way to give birth.
You know, nothing, nothing happens spontaneously. I didn’t go into labor spontaneously. It was all under control. And from my perspective and from the midwife perspective as well. And was that, was that frustrating that you waned made it to that point and then without having the NICU or FISA or anything and then ended up with, yeah, definitely. It was that bit was kind of taken out of my hands and not being able to deliver the placenta and the doctors not being able to stick out out.
It, it kind of went from, we’ll need to give you an academic role. We’ll take stay, and we’ll give you an epidural. We’ll take out, you’ll be back in 40 minutes to, you know, to me, not remembering, I’ve been emergency of, you know, I was shipped off, down on head down, down the COVID door.
We got, you know, and I’ve never been to before. I’ve never been put to sleep before, so I didn’t know what to expect or, or anything. So yeah, it was wasn’t the best standing. But at that point, I, you know, I can’t dwell on that too much. I’m here. My baby boy’s here. He any extra health?
He’s perfect. Absolutely perfect. So that is just a small part of, you know, what, and how was your recovery afterwards? The physical recovery? I don’t think we actually realized what Hyde had done on the outside. It didn’t even look like I had given birth. It was all internal. I was on time antibiotics. Yeah, the actual physical.
That was the hardest it took. I remember going into his eight week chat my eight week check from the doctor and I still wasn’t. Okay. And I had to have another course of antibiotics, but yeah, I think you just underestimated the actual internal, what had gone on and what they’d done to me internally to get me. Right. I think I’m not sure if the percentage didn’t come because I wasn’t juiced or because I delivered him so quickly.
Don’t think my body was ready to give birth, but it was quite happy in there, but we need to announced. Yeah. And like you say, like, it’s that having that open minded, you don’t know what’s going to happen. And overall, would you describe your breath experience supposed to be? Yeah. Oh, absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely.
A lot went out. I think a lot happened in VSA. Well, up until that actually been induced. Yeah. I was, it was a hundred percent positive and I like it just to anyone just, just be open minded. Don’t go in there think, and just because I’m going to be induced, does it mean it’s going to go what’s in my birth and plan it’s it’s not possible unless you go in for a planned C-section I don’t even know anything can happen.
Just be completely open-minded to, to antisense. Definitely. So you mentioned earlier that you packed a lot of stuff. What did you pack that was helpful? I pretend even use half the stuff that we parked from home embark. And I’m a spray fan to keep you cool. The one thing I did use, which is quite a funny story, I’m mom,
my husband’s mom bought me laughing display when I was pregnant, despite on the pet helped me sleep. And so we took her into hospital with us and we didn’t use it at all. And I was at the point, I think, where I was quite could get into the clothes, getting to the end of pushing him out. When I was on all floors,
I have my mom kind of in a headlock, the gas scenario one and in a moment. And she said that she had my husband to stay with something around the room and she looked up and he’s walking around with this laughing display, spraying everywhere, because it does take me to like a calm place, a calm sleep place. So yeah, we packed some up and display.
If you’re going to be induced, you need some form of entertainment. So we took the iPad with us before we went in. We downloaded loads of stuff on there. So we didn’t think internet and the hospital was actually quite good too. We did it with, but yeah, just, just anything to keep your hands teed because it can be long and it can be boring.
We met my woman, the caffeine on the Tuesday downstairs. I taught my Impella as well. This is nothing like your own pillow and your own smell from home. Plenty of clean on anything just comfy. You know, I did really walk in mountain jeans, just I had to cook the nineties with milk and it’s those kinds of things I can’t get rid of either.
I’ve got a private pajamas that I will walk down to the labor room. I’ll get it to them pajamas. Cause it was the last set of pajamas that I wore when I was pregnant. Things like that. I’ll see you stuff that we had for those. We are time snacks. Yeah. We had, I think they’re two bags of snacks or so because the diabetes I was in eat and drinking course here,
I really liked Costco, bottled water. So we have plenty of that with us. And by that point, the diabetes, I was just eating whatever I needed to eat. My dad wasn’t really affected by what I am. So it was quite lucky on the hospital food. I add, I can’t complain at all. It was really nice. It was nice to be fed really.
I didn’t come home until the Friday. So I was five full days in the, so it was quite nice to be looked after and just be aware that this potential in the same room for quite a long time, you get very familiar with those funds sometimes. Yeah. So you had your husband and your mom, is that right? It’s your birth partners and how did they help?
What did they do that was helpful. Other than spear lavender. He was just kind of, even in case one of us needed anything, he will say he kind of held hands, squeeze his hands. My mom I’m wonderful girls and my baby boy, he is the fifth grandchild and my mom’s been there for four. He was, she was at the,
he was the fourth one. So she’s quite periods my mum in the apartment. And she kind of gets me more emotionally, which is why she was quite adamant of me not having an epidural because she just knew I didn’t need it and I could get through it without. So she was my emotional support. And by my husband, he was just kind of needed a drink.
He held the sick pocket. He came to toilet with the advice. Absolutely perfect. And I couldn’t, I would never do it without them again. And in terms of your recovery afterwards, like what helps you like, cause you know, you think like if you have an experience like that, generally they’d be in pregnancy. Like you’d be in your bed and all of that stuff and it’s entirely different,
isn’t it? When you’ve got a child who’s demanding your attention. So what helped you in terms of recovery Wayne in the shower? I don’t care. What we in the shower, even to this day, when I get in the shower, it’s like a natural body reaction. Cause I just went in the shower. Yeah, I did have, I had a lot of help.
I w we came home on the Friday and Bernacki about to work on the Monday. So we did until my son was four weeks old. And just making sure you put that you need close to. Yeah. So you’re not having to get off every five minutes, you know, at that quite early on, he was on the pre-made optimal basils. So at room temperature,
it didn’t need to be in the fridge or anything. So, you know, make sure you got it as easy and simple as you can, you know, pre-made meals. It’s just simple. It’s just something. Cause I couldn’t stand up for a very long time. So I couldn’t be sending that. I couldn’t, I couldn’t cook a meal for weeks cause I couldn’t set it up in the kitchen.
So when I was by myself, just making sure that there was just something quick and easy. Yes. Patty and crack. It’s just something that you can just throw on a plate together and walk in the living room and sit down and eat. You know, you’re not, so they’re making him food, just making sure I’ve since kind of, I gave a few people I’m house keys as well,
so didn’t have to keep getting all. So from the door often jaw it’s a, you have to use your key to get in. You can’t just walk in or I leave the side door unlocked. And if you knew someone was commanders, you know, the side door, so you can just come in, help yourselves. Obviously at that time, COVID was kind of still around a little bit.
We had to be in February. So people were common in the side kitchen, side door and washing the hands straight away before they came to see yours. And if anyone offers any help, take it as long as you feel comfortable, just take it without the help of, I’ve got three younger sisters and they’ve all got children. I couldn’t have done it without the help of that.
You know, my, my sister was cleaning my bathroom for me at one point, my mom, definitely for the first week. I just, because I couldn’t physically do it when he said she helped me shower and get dressed. I think as I was, it’s just making sure you have a shower every day, you know, put a key<inaudible> it makes such a difference to how things,
how you feel. Yeah, so it was always a big part of my routine of ions off. And even if it was a 32nd body shower, it was a 32nd body shower. I think a wash and a half about a week and a half. I didn’t have the energy or nor could I stand up, stand up for that long, but a 32nd by the shower,
every morning, fresh pajamas or lounge wear and fresh powder. Doesn’t do that. It definitely makes you feel just a little bit nicer for the day. Yeah, definitely. So your one must be almost four months now, half months, five months. And how are you feeling? Nice recovery wise, you feel like you’re more back to yourself physically. Yeah,
I’m mentally, I’m still processing and what happens after the best and I’m still struggling. I got hyperemesis during the pregnancy and that completely changed my relationship with food. I couldn’t eat what I would normally I was seeing things I wouldn’t know that I wouldn’t normally eat. So getting back to that, I haven’t, I can count on one hand was on the food shop in the past year because I couldn’t face going into the same with cooking a meal as well.
I can probably count on two hands. How many times I’ve cooked a meal for me and my husband physically I’d say back to normal, but mentally I’m dealing with kind of a lot of things. I got the health and I’m getting the health and it should take me as it comes last night, he, he had a bit of fear. He didn’t want to go to sleep last night.
And normally he’s, we have quite a good routine. And he’s normally about between nine and a half past nine and last night you didn’t get to sleep and was working the late shift. So I was by myself. I was nearly demented and I, by the time we went to sleep, so you’re just taking each day and got through another day and today’s another day.
And as we get through each day, yes, definitely anything. That’s a really good attitude to like focus on one day at a time, especially as early like months and years. For sure. I think that’s a really nice way to look at it. And oh, that’s amazing that you can, that you’ve healed physically though. Isn’t like, does that amaze you,
that your body minds to like heal from that? I look at him and I’m like, I can’t believe that I grew you and I can’t believe I gave this to you. And it is what the woman, a woman’s body can do when it comes to get from birth is just, it’s incredible. Absolutely incredible. And I’m like, it’s understandable that emotionally it takes,
well, why on? I think a lot of people don’t talk about that or don’t appreciate it because it’s like, well, you look fine. You know, you look fine, but actually there’s more to it than that. Isn’t there. Yeah. Yeah. Excuse me. You recognize that. And there was support available for things like that. Is that the very beginning of the meeting note on my phone and could reasons why?
Cause I was crying, absolutely everything and anything I need to know of all the reasons why I was crying the first night we were home. I cried because I got back into the beds. And last time I got, I was in that bed. I was pregnant, things like that. I cried. It’s just such random things and it’s, it’s nice to have them all written down.
So they kind of, I’ve written time. They’re out of my brain. And then in a year’s time I can look back at them and like of, it’s just something nice to look back on as all the, you know, at the time, even in such a footsie bubble, you probably won’t remember half the stuff that I cried about it if I had not wrote them down so that it’s just something that we can look back on in years time.
And you know, it was a nice experience and we’ve got our beautiful baby boy and here’s the random things I cried about. I still, like, I cry a little more random Wednesday than every, before I can’t cope with people being nice. Like some of us see something, someone helping someone I’m just like in tears, but yeah, you’re right.
Like those early days, it can be like that, you know, in anything and everything. And especially as your hormones are fluctuating and all of that is changing and there’s so much processing to do. I think giving yourself time and getting support if you need support so important. I think one good way to describe it is it’s like going cold Turkey. You’ve been raging with hormones for nine months.
And then within a matter of minutes it’s gone and you’ve gone cold Turkey as well as looking after a newborn baby, as well as physically recovering, I think took me so long to physically recover. I didn’t process the emotional side of it until I’d finished the physical recovery. Cause I was just concentrating on that and it is, it’s like going cold Turkey from region hormones to Nelson and it’s,
it’s hard. And I did up the, in the shakes at the night, like I was going through cold Turkey, but yeah, I mean, that’s what my mom says to me. It’s my mum says it’s normal and it’s going to take time. And I keep saying, he sees me one more time. It’s not, I am well aware.
It’s normal and it’s going to take time, but just make it stop. And actually no one told me about sweats before I had them. Yeah. It’s like you have all the extra fluid. It has to come out in some way and yes you do. But like, yeah. It’s usually in bed at night. Yeah. I am fine. I’m going to pay now.
But those, I think my friend, the midwife in the end, I was like, I, I am literally, I am, I’m dripping in the middle of the night. I’m just waiting on a puddle because I was shivering, but I’m sweating. It’s all completely normal. It’s your, body’s just adjusting again. It’s like, I’m called to so interesting.
Yeah. All the things like we don’t nor normal cause no one talks about it. So it’s good to talk about it. So for anyone listening, is there anything else that they’re a good friend in induction tomorrow? Is there anything else you want to share with them? I do. Like the open-minded thing is really important. Is there any other things you would like to share?
Just be open minded it’s it’s, you know, it’s your decision unless you know, it comes down to life or death. It is your decision of what you want to happen. If you don’t want to be induced and don’t be induced and just make an educated choice of what’s best for you and baby be reminded it is your decision and be patient because I won the lucky bonds.
I’m well aware that I had a really good induction, a knife. I’ve got a friend who was in, you know, five days. So just be open-minded it’s your choice and just be patient and you’ll get there. Brilliant. Thanks so much. Thanks so much for sharing both your, your breasts and your recovery stories. I really appreciate it. No problem.
Thank you very much. Thank you again, Laura, for sharing your story with us today and really do appreciate everyone who takes time to share the story with us here. If you’d like to share your story, do get in touch with me. I want to end with the things that stood out for me. This conversation today, Farsi keeping an open mind as Laura says,
is so important with any birth you need to be flexible. I don’t mean dwelling on everything that can go wrong, but knowing that things can change in being as prepared and informed as you can is important. Secondly, if you’re struggling to process your birth emotionally, or you just want some support doing, so do reach out and ask for support. I’ll share some resources in the show notes relating to this,
but you can also reach out to me and ask if you have any questions. Thirdly, I think the importance of accepting help from those around you is an important message here. No matter how your birth goes. So often we try to do it all ourselves asking for help sometimes feels like we’re feeling, but I believe it’s actually a strength to be able to ask for help and to accept help.
We’re not meant to do this alone, to hear the raise. It takes a village and it’s true. And most people love to be helpful. So if the offer and you say yes, you’re helping them too. Thanks for listening. Head over to the show notes for this episode@positiveadduction.com forward slash episode 10, where you’ll find additional links, resources, and of course the positive induction course,
a hypnobirthing course, especially created for induction. Thanks again for being here with us today and duke and touch. If you have any questions, you can email me jade@positiveinduction.com. I hope you have a lovely week.